The facts

fate isn't fair. It's even. To maintain there must be balance. And so not everyone gets the same chances. The "luck" that ultimately supersedes our skills and personalities is the first and final determiner of what challenges come into your life and just how grave they are. Will you get hit with something you can handle or something you can't? This luck is spread evenly across the entirety of time.

there are lucky ones to balance the unlucky ones
and the ones in the middle to wait their turn for a chance to become an extreme, complaining that they are forgotten by fate. knowing full well that no one is forgotten.

regardless of how tightly we hold on to things, some will still
slip through our hands. because they were meant to change us
by not giving us what we want, we are forced to cope with the matter in any way we can. and by constantly trying to take what we have, to rip it away from us, it causes us to fight for what we have, to cherish it while it is still ours.

think of the olympics. Think of the people winning medals, who are fulfilling some of their greatest desires. Think about the billions of other people who have that same dream, but will never accomplish it. It's not always their own fault they never got what they wanted. It just wasn't in their fates.

and they will be in pain from it until they become numb to it. And it will bother them until it doesn't. Until they move on. Until they are at peace with their life. But do not mistake this, they have been at war. how long is uncertain, but they must have hurt sometime. And I know it hurts to watch people hurt. But to tell them to deny the hurt is to tell them to deny a crucial experience of life. that it just wasn't in their destiny shows that something else was their calling, and whether or not they accepted it was up to themselves.

the constant flow of energy from the surroundings into the self and vice versa is remarkable. Some is lost in one direction but gained in others; the shiftings of what matters and what doesn't. the choice to achieve one goal over another. We too must realize when fate is done allowing us to use its energy. When it becomes time for that energy to belong to someone else. The energy is never ours. the energy is borrowed. and there comes a time to give it back. in silence, and reverence, humbled by the simple fact that we had the opportunity to borrow against fate.

fate is fate. Fate is not unfair. and even though we think its "unfair", we still play by its rules because its the only chance we have living a human life. we take it like an ungrateful teenager who is allowed to go out on the weekends but has a curfew. call it ugly and unnecessary because it makes us feel anything except in control. But if you open your eyes, you would see how beautiful it is, because if we can understand all the possibilities and can be okay with them we can say, "there is someone who has a better life because of me". No matter how much we try and fight it to be what we want, it will be what it will be.